| Orientation to Biblical Counseling
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| Lesson 1 - God's Way vs Man's Way
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Dynamics of Problem Solving :
Heb.3:13
- Being ignorant of sin desensitizes and causes hardening.
Rom.1:20-32
- After awhile you become your own god, you establish
standards to justify self-centered pursuits. Therefore, it is
a question of becoming knowledgeable, of becoming sensitive, of
recognizing that living in this world cannot be taken for granted
else through ignorance one can perish. Hosea 4:6
.
The Ways of Man and the Ways of God:
The world has about 230 psychological schools of thought dealing
with the study of man, his behaviour, and the ethical and moral
standards required for man to solve personal problems. These schools
are reduced for easier assessment to five basic modalities, as
follows:
- Man is good :
Humanism - independence from God - new age - has everything
necessary within to solve own problems; mind merely blocked by
negative thinking or influences, develop positive thinking and
draw from one's own resources, see self as worthwhile and esteemed,
the self becomes a god.
What does God say? See Ps.62:9
; Rom.3:10-18
, 23
; 7:18
.
- Man is a superior animal :
Basic view of man is that his behavior is conditioned or programmed,
wrongly influenced by environment and circumstances, needs to
be reconditioned or reprogrammed by manipulation
of behavior thru use of positive and negative stimuli, trained
to respond to reward and punishment in order to improve self.
What does God say? See John 15:4-5
; Rom.1:18-32
; James
4:10.
- Man can change himself :
Man can change bad behavior due to being the product of a
bad environment.This is same as items above but dealing with aberrant
and criminal elements.
What does God say? See Jere.13
; 23; Eze.18:20
; Eze.36:26-27
.
- Man, a victim of conscience :
Man driven by instincts, thwarted by family, by society, by
upbringing, others are responsible for his problems, deep analysis
necessary, hypnosis, resocialization, reconstitute ego, id, libidos,
catharsis, self-actualization, free association, etc.
What does God say? See Eze.18:20
; Phil.2:3-4
; l Tim.4:1-2
- Man, a bargainer :
When the above doesn't work , the world uses this: trade-offs.
You do this, and I will do this, or 50/50 arrangement.Only trouble
is that the self nature always wants more than its share, imbalances
are inevitable.
What does God say? God commands us to love without expectation
of return, to return good for evil. See Rom.12:21
; Phil.2:3-4
.
Man's way is always self-oriented, he is his own god, as evidenced
by :
- no biblical confrontation,
- no conversion experience expected or even considered,
- no repentance,
- no work of the Holy Spirit,
- and no sanctification process in bearing the image of God.
All of this is typical and represents the humanistic philosophy
engendered from the Enlightenment and the Renaissance periods
of the 18th century, culminating today in a society which foundation
is being built on preferences (feelings) rather than principles,
where human reason replaces the Ten Commandments.
God's way of handling problems, His solutions are:
Phil.3:13
- God is the God of the "I AM", He is not
in the past, nor in the future, He is always in the present, we
start from the present and each day thereafter, o ne day at a
time.
Lu.9:62
- Looking back into the past will make you unfit for the
present.
Heb.11:15
- Thinking of the past makes one vulnerable, and weak.
Rom.8:28
- Past events in our lives are irreversible, why waste
time and effort there.
- Our reactions to those events can be changed as we allow God
to intervene in the present, to reach into our experiences, to
redeem us, to free us to love and worship God, and eventually
we become lovers of God in our spirits instead of lovers of self
by dwelling on the past.
1 Tim.4:7
; Eph.4:22-24
- Thus, it is through discipline we become
godly, by commitment to live God's way in the present through
the simple process of putting-off and putting-on by direction
of God's word and in the power of the Holy Spirit.
Accordingly, we change our coping mechanisms from reacting to
life to responding to God's word and being the blessing that God
intended us to be from the beginning.
God's resources :
Start up the spiral by tackling the immediate problem first, Jm.1:2
,
4. Act on known solutions, postpone acting when solutions are
unknown, Jm. 1:5-8
; John 7:17
; Rom.14:23
. Continue up the spiral,
Heb.5:14
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Homework
- Memory verse :
- 2 Tim.3:16
, 17
, and meditate on this verse.
- Devotions :
- BSAF on Jn.16:7
and 8 and 13; Heb.4:12
; Gal.6:1
, do one a
day.
- Put-off / Put-on :
- Study Eph.4:22-32
and examine yourself to determine if you
have been conforming or not conforming to the principles stated
in each of these 11 verses. Make a list of your failures for future
reference.