To whom are we to submit?
- Phil.2:5-11
-The Lord Jesus Christ, be under His control.
- Eph.5:21
; Rom.12:10
-To one another.
- Eph.5:25-29
, l Pet.3:7
-Husband to nourish, cherish, protect,
and provide for his wife, to sacrifice for her, love his wife
unconditionally, unendingly, intensive, unselfish, purposeful,
sacrificial and to meet her emotional, intellectual, social, recreational,
sexual and spiritual needs.
- Eph.5:22-24
; l Pet.3:1-6
-Submission is the freedom to be creative
under divine appointed authority(God).This means wife puts all
her talents, abilities, resources, energy at her husband's disposal.
As husband's teammate, she strives to meet the same goals, shares
ideas, opinions, desires, insights, and wife acts as consultant
and advisor.
- Wife's primary ministry in life is her husband. She was made
to fulfill the needs, the lacks, the inadequacies of her husband.
She is a unique helper, husband is incomplete without her.
Note: As lord of creation, God made man to be the leader
and the authority. Thus, man is burdened for himself, for wife,
for the family in all ultimate matters. Accordingly, he needs
help, and his wife is the one person who is critical to his success.
Resolving Problem Areas
Course of action to take:
- Establish commitment to the Lord to follow His principles.
- Change focus on what other spouse has to do ,to do what you
have to do.
- Each needs to identify their own failures, to list them, and
make plans to biblically correct failures.
l Cor.13:4-8
- Identify sin, review love verses, and respond accordingly,
regardless of the others responses, or lack of, that is ,to act
by will and not by feelings. Remember, the goal is to become one
flesh, one mind .one spirit. Division allows the enemy access
to your life and home, curses rather than blessings follow. Through
unity, blessings follow, God is in the home, success and prosperity
are inevitable.
Ways to Resolve Conflicts
- l Cor.1:10
-Conciliation, both agree.
- Phil.2:3-4
-Establish priorities. She wants stove, he wants
car. Buy stove, save for the car.
- Rom.12:18
-Both agree to disagree.
- James 1:5
-Creative alternative, there could a third way.
Conflicts evolve because we want our 'own way' regardless of what
the other person wants. When living to please self, each spouse
will blame the other for problems and difficulties even though
both are sinning, James 4:1
.