God's View:
Rom. 7:18 ; 8:12-13 ;
Lu. 9:23-24 -Nothing
good lives in our sinful nature. We are not to look to our past,
to change or heal, or to reform past memories through self-realization
or self-actualization. We are to put the diseased memories to
death with Christ on the Cross. Look to Christ, forgive others
or be forgiven, then we find healing for past memories.
We are not called to self-realization but to identification with Christ. Our true self at any stage of becoming is in Christ. All the wounds we suffered in the past, accept as a reality and see Jesus take these wounds on the cross. There He took upon and into Himself our darkness and depression and gives us in exchange His light and life.
Hope:
Eph. 4:17-24 ; 3:16-19 -Failing
to love ourselves aright, we will love ourselves amiss. Concern
over our sins 'inferiority' or shortcomings are examples of the
wrong form of self-love. Our reactions to the past must be identified,
recognized and come to terms with. Our grievous and subjective
reactions to the shortcomings and sins of others against us, must
be accepted and not denied, and forgiveness extended. Once these
are identified, we take them to God the Father and with Him we
deal with the situation. His truths begin to flow into our being
and our souls and we become that which God says we are in His
Son.
2Cor. 13:5 ; 3:16-18 ; Gal. 4:19 ; Lu. 10:19 -You have the nature of God, and the great and mighty Holy Spirit, and you are the son of God. You have the authority that is in heaven, all you have to do is to go and practice it, the practice of who and what you are in Christ Jesus, not what you were or have done or what was done to you in the past.
2Cor. 5:21 ; James 4:10 -We cannot become good enough on our own, we can't heal ourselves by our reasons or feelings or self-effort. We must live from a new center, Jesus Christ. It is He Who will lead and direct us and make our lives significant.
Change:
Isa. 55:1-3 ; 61:1 -Self-hatred
in the christian is a substitute for humility, It belongs to pride.
We are to repent of this focus on self, go to the Lord, listen
to His words and grow into His image. We bring dysfunctional,
sinful, prideful patterns in the thought life and imagination
into submission to Christ. In listening prayer, every thought
of the mind, every imagination of the heart, is brought captive
to Christ.
Gal. 5:16-18 -To walk in the Spirit is to live in the present moment, always looking to Christ, always practicing His Presence, always moving in tandem with him.
Ps. 51 -No
matter how deep the wounding and horrendous the sin, the acknowledgement
of ourselves as sinful from birth, the reception of Christ's forgiveness,
and the extending of this forgiveness to others releases us from
self-hatred and shame. We are to train our minds to think, to
think through all the issues of our lives with God. Then, as we
learn to hear God, we will receive from Him the true word, and
we replace our old diseased negatives with the positive word He
is always sending.